No one likes to be confused. (I took a poll… it’s unanimous.) A very famous motivational speaker and teacher would have his large audiences clap vigorously whenever someone said the words, “I am confused.” It was confusing.

Eventually, I (and the rest of the observers to his life-changing methods) figured out that the state of confusion can be a great gift. It is the sensation of your brain (and maybe even your heart) stretching past its previous boundaries.

I’ve spent a great deal of my life confused. This guy or that, this job or that, this dress or that. Digesting life as one choice after another makes for quite a bit of uncertainty.

It can also mean that that we become aware that we are making choices, as opposed to being forced, directed or victimized. From that perspective, it’s a position of power and sovereignty.

This feels much better than the alternative.

When the view is hazy, do you curse what you cannot see or praise what will eventually reveal itself? What a difference a choice makes!

In my current situation, with my new progressive glasses, the difference between fuzzy and clear is a shift of a couple of millimeters. Funnily enough, so it is in life as well. When we overreact to not seeing clearly, we take drastic measures, which almost never prove fruitful. In fact, they typically require compensating in the opposite direction. Sometimes several times.

Taking that tiny movement between confusion and clarity conserves energy and equilibrium, while taking us to the preferred outcome with the greatest grace. Embracing our position as the director relieves us from the powerlessness that always threatens to consume us.

Every piece of data we accumulate of our own stewardship of this gift of a life reinforces our ability to make and take the next step. We grow our capabilities, our confidence and our comfort with what lies outside of our immediate focus. That, my friends, isn’t blurry at all.

What’s out of focus for you now? What is the smallest step you can take toward resolution? Share with me below.

That sensation you’re feeling? It’s your brain expanding. Cool, right?