For the past several days a bird has been flying into the windows of my house. It happens more than ten times a day, and startles me every time.

It’s confusing.

Hasn’t that bird figured it out by now? Doesn’t the sting of crashing into the window create enough negative reinforcement to prevent it from trying again and again? Why would it keep repeating an action that is totally useless, and likely painful?

I can’t help but think, “Dumb bird.”

And then I realize… I’ve done exactly the same thing.

In relationships: “Love me, love me, why won’t you love me??”
In business: “It works for everybody else!”
In health: “That doesn’t quite feel right, but let me just keep doing it.”
In parenting: “Don’t make me have to say it again!!”

In so many destructive patterns I couldn’t possibly list them all here. (And besides, it would be horribly embarrassing.)

How many times have you hurled yourself at the same wall, hoping it would somehow vanish?

How many times have you pretended that, “This time it’ll work… (despite the fact that it NEVER has).”

How many times have your actions left you bumped, bruised and possibly broken?

In between attempts to fly through solid glass, the bird sits in a tree about 10 feet away. We stare each other down. I try to psychically communicate…

“Whatever it is you want in here, you need to find it somewhere else.”

Attempting (over and over again) to obtain something that is causing you harm is a certain path to tragedy.

Persistence is one thing. Delusion is quite another.

Einstein had something to say about that too: “Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”

Perhaps it’s time to admit that your equivalent to flying into a window just isn’t working. From that point, it’s possible to heal the damage done, and then explore a different possibility.

Staying true to your vision sometimes means finding a different way of getting there.

It requires taking off the blinders, being honest about the results and then finding the courage to change the plan. Releasing attachment to what is not working, so that a better way can reveal itself, is the work of a master navigator.

The skill of effective navigation has been vital in so many areas of my life:

• Raising a free-spirited, strong-willed child
• Birthing a business that feeds my soul
• Creating the love relationship I’ve always dreamed of
• Recovering from deep loss
• Traveling the world

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