The Perspective of Suffering
Hello dearest one, “That person hurt me! Don’t I have a right to be upset?” That question has come up with every client I’ve worked with in the past 10 years. Whether it is the main problem, or one uncovered on the way to the main problem, it appears. I have asked myself that…
Forgetting My Words
Dearest Friend, Let me tell you about the time I lost my mind. To tell you the truth, it happens all the time. My highly successful selective amnesia has erased the painful peaks of heartbreak, childbirth, and too many martinis, leaving only benign flatlands that are much easier to navigate. Multiple times a…
Growing Wings
Dearest Friend, Today, I share with you a short piece/prose poem I created, as well as a favorite poem by a beloved poet. You may remember, I’ve been pondering life and age as I approach my BIG FIVE OH. (We’re down to 33 days, BTW.) I’ve been a bit moody, I’ve been told. If you are too (and…
The Countdown
Dearest Friend, Happy Mother’s Day to all of you who’ve either been or had a mother! Whatever that experience means for you, it is certainly a shared thread between every person on this planet. My beautiful girl and I started celebrating on Saturday, and I’m thinking TWO days is a much more appropriate amount of…
A Slick Protective Coating
I have dreamed of being dunked in a huge vat of Teflon. Yes, I understand it’s gruesomely toxic, but still… Wouldn’t it be nice to be impervious? To be completely protected from any possible harm, accidental or not? To wipe yourself clean after any experience without any scars or marks left behind? Sometimes I…
The Big Game
Please excuse this interruption to your regularly scheduled programming. (Don’t worry. Today’s post is short and sweet to get you back to your big screen and crunchy snacks.) A certain game might be front of mind for you today, but I’m talking about the REAL game… called LIFE. (Not the board game, either.) No balls,…
Secret Ingredients
I’m in the opening stretch of a very busy time, and only getting busier. I feel my body wanting to brace for impact, and it takes diligence to keep telling myself to lean in and soften. It’s so easy to spiral into the impossibility of it all – too many to-do’s for one person, three…
The Generosity of Sadness
One of my favorite healers (and human beings) used the phrase ‘generosity of sadness’ in our last conversation. I thought it was so poetic and beautiful that I grabbed the closest notepad and wrote it down. I didn’t know what it meant. Perhaps I still don’t. But it felt like something in my mouth demanding…
Addiction to Suffering
There was a point in my spiritual journey where I found myself highly disturbed by the people around me. No, not the ‘regular’ people of everyday life… the angry driver, the ignorant telemarketer, the rude flight attendant. I was annoyed by the people in the various spiritual communities I had joined. I felt incredibly triggered,…
Naked and Unafraid
Just two days before a weeklong trip to Los Angeles, I learned that the housing I had arranged was no longer available. I then began a frenzied search to find a place to stay in one of the most popular tourist areas of California. I booked a room using an online rental service that I…